Today I want to continue talking about divorce options. Now what I wanted to show you today is why divorce litigation is my least favorite option for divorcing couples. I going to use this piece of paper here to demonstrate.
This piece of paper is what you are able to communicate to me about what is going on. And everything you want to get thoughtful consideration when deciding about your future. And your family and how your assets are going to be divided up, and things like that.
This is what I am able to understand of what you tell me, what I’m able to hear, take in, assimilate and understand.
This is what I think will be important to the judge, to the decision maker. These are the most important things that I want him or her to hear and consider when making a decision about your family.
This, because of time constraints, the rules of evidence and the rules of procedure and how courts conduct trials, is what I am able to present to the court of what you’ve told me.
What the judge hears is this. Because judges are human beings. They can’t listen completely all the time. They filter things out that they don’t think are important. This is what the judge actually hears of what I present.
This is what the judge actually understands of what he or she hears.
And this is what the judge thinks is important about what the judge hears.
This is what the judge bases his or her decisions on.
It’s bananas. Divorce litigation is a crazy way to make decisions. Because it doesn’t result in justice ever. It occasionally results in a fair result, but never a result that both people are really happy with, and usually not a result that’s best for your family.
So, if this is what you want to be thoughtfully considered, and taken into account, and discussed as decisions are being made about your family, your best option is to choose a no-court option for your divorce.
As always, I love to talk to you personally. If you have any questions, concerns, or you’d like to get more information, give me a call at 386-271-8044