The Collaborative Divorce Center

Deciding Between Collaborative Divorce and Mediation

Collaborative Divorce vs. Mediation: Choosing the Right Path If you’re considering divorce, you might be surprised to learn that there are no court options for divorce that will ensure that the process isn’t unnecessarily expensive and destructive. You and your spouse may have decided the marriage is no longer working, and if so, there is […]

Father’s Day

After divorce, all holidays look and feel different. For dads, Father’s Day can be especially difficult (as Mother’s Day can be for moms).

Prenuptial Agreements: Making a Smart Choice

Prenuptial Agreements- A WISE MOVE A pre-nuptial agreement or pre-nup is a legally binding contract between two people who intend to get married. The contract can cover a wide array of possible scenarios and issues concerning the relationship. It generally outlines certain protections for the parties in the event of divorce. These may include the […]

Summer Break Co-Parenting: Tips for Success

Co-parenting During Summer Break I know it is early, but now is the time for families who are co-parenting to start thinking about summer time-sharing. It’s common for parenting agreements to have provisions that require notifications to each other in advance of vacations or to get approval for camp, school or other activities. There may […]

Delicate Conversation: Communicating Your Desire for Divorce

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce If you are unhappy and considering divorce, but don’t know how to tell your spouse, this is written especially for you. Make certain you really want a divorce. Don’t make the mistake of threatening divorce because you’re angry. This is a conversation to have with your […]

Communication Insights: The Gentle Art of Rebuking

The Gentle Rebuke I was driving to the courthouse recently. I was in a bit of a hurry because I was running a tiny bit late. I do not generally speed and especially not in the vicinity of the courthouse because it is congested, near the library and a baseball field and the road is […]

Healthy Family Dynamics: Avoiding Win-Lose Scenarios

Families Should Never Be Forced to Be Winners or Losers! Divorce is first and foremost an emotional process and secondarily a financial process. The legal process is incidental once the emotional and financial work is done. This is why families are failed by divorce conducted primarily by lawyers in an inefficient and inflexible court system […]

More on Perspective

More on Perspective—One Way to De-escalate Conflict and Have a Healthy Conversation that is More Likely to Lead to a Resolution. Often we look back on a fight with a significant other and think “I can’t believe we got into it over—-the clothes on the floor– the dishes in the sink–being late, etc. etc. We […]