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DIVORCING DIFFERENTLY

DIVORCING DIFFERENTLY What if I didn’t blame my partner for anything and held myself 100 percent accountable? What if I checked my own stuff at the door and put my kids first? What if I reminded myself of the things about my partner that I like and fostered the friendship? What if? If you could […]

Still More on Perspective

Still More on Perspective If you’re stuck, change your perspective. What you see from 20,000 feet is very different from what you see from 2 feet. Different perspectives reveal different solutions. This is especially true with the problems that need to be solved during a divorce. People who make money off of your pain and […]

Words are Powerful!

Words are Powerful! How would you describe divorce? Most people would use words like fight, loss, adversarial, traumatic, expensive, conflict, scary, never-ending, and even destructive. Not me. When I think about how I facilitate the transition from married to single, here are the words that describe how I do divorce: EmpoweredHolisticParadigm-ShiftUpliftSupportPracticalMetamorphosisTransformIndividualizedPersonalizedCustomAll InclusiveFull CircleTransitionsFocusedRenewalRestoration It is […]

How to Know When Your Relationship Is Over

How to Know When Your Relationship Is Over The New Year is a time when many people re-evaluate many things, including their marriage, especially if times have been rough. I have been working this month on helping folks figure out whether or not to divorce. It is one of the hardest decisions you ever have […]

A Word About New Year’s Resolutions

A Word About New Year’s Resolutions I have never been a fan of New Year’s resolutions but I could never really express why. This week, I found someone who hit the nail on the head for me. Roger Rosenblatt wrote an opinion piece that was published in the New York Times and here is what […]

Halloween– Treats Only!

Halloween– Treats Only! Halloween for your family is usually filled with spooky traditions (boo!)or trick-or-treating around the neighborhood, no parent wants to miss out on theirkids in cute costumes having a great time. Parents can consider approaching Halloween without scares of fighting, “split-time” or alternating “every other year,” and make Halloween a treat for yourchildren […]

Translating Gaslighting in Relationships

Translating Gaslighting in Relationships We hear a lot these days about gaslighting and sometimes it is hard to understand just what that means. One definition is the action of repetitively (and often brazenly) lying to someone to manipulate, and ultimately control them and the relationship. It could be divided into four different types: outright lying, […]

A Dollar Isn’t Always a Dollar?

Did You Know that a Dollar Isn’t Always a Dollar? Collaborative Professionals use the acronym PEACE to remember the steps in a divorce. Funny, huh, since most divorces are not particularly peaceful. But since one thing affects another, for example, the amount of alimony will affect the amount of child support, we have to approach […]

Tips For Surviving Back to School

Tips For Surviving Back to School As A Recently Divorced Parent Back-to-school season is a time of new beginnings, fresh starts, and bettering yourself. It’s also one of the most stressful times of the year for parents. After all, juggling work and kids, figuring out new schedules for both and finding the money for backpacks […]

Florida’s Alimony Revamp

New Florida Law Eliminates Permanent Alimony New law passed in Florida completely revamping alimony. The new law will apply to all cases pending as of July 1st. One of the stated goals of the overhaul is to reduce litigation. I believe that some provisions of the new law will have the opposite effect. The bill […]